I don’t think I am crazy. After you read several of my thoughts you may think I am crazy. But I think I am still sane. Shortly after my husband died I would wake up in the night or early morning hours and look out of my window. Now my bed is facing a bank of six large eight foot windows.
Early in the morning I would see this brightest of stars. It was there so big and so bright. It was beckoning to me. “See me” it would say. Look at me. I am here just for you to see.
It was mesmerizing. It was so bright that you could not divert your eyes. If there were other stars, this star was so much brighter and bolder you did not pay attention to the others. So I would stare at this star.
Now I am not a student of the stars. I remember when I was a Girl Scout and my wonderful leader would teach us the constellations. I just did not get it. I am fairly visual but I could not see a Lion or a Bear. So I do not know much about the night sky. I do not know if this was Venus or Mars or some other planet or star.
But I do know that it was a heavenly body that begged for my attention. So I started waking every night to see this bright light in the sky. In my mind, I imagined that this was my dearest friend that no longer shared the bed with me. This was the spiritual image of my love. This was the soul of my lost husband.
He called to me each night to notice him. To share with him. To talk to him and to feel comforted by his presence. So I do. Each night I love to see him and think of the days activities and let him know of my things to do list. Each night I feel his approval of how I am progressing without his physical body.
Now, you think that is strange. It gets worse. I recently went to my mountain house. Way up there in northern North Carolina on a remote ten acres away from everything. At this house my bed is facing two large sliding glass doors that open onto the second floor deck.
At 6 am on the first morning there I wake up and, you guessed it, the star is there. It was so bright and in your face. No other star was visible. Although the sky was dark, this beauty of a light was so bright it was hard to take your eyes off of it.
So we talked. We laughed. We enjoyed our presence with each other.
Later on that day, I started to consider the orientation of my bedrooms in each house. At the lake I face South/Southwest. In the mountains I face East/ Northeast. Am I crazy? Are my eyes and mind playing tricks on me? Do I miss my husband so much I am seeing things and trying to make them into something real?
I don’t know. I don’t care. I wake up to see my bright star. I enjoy sharing and feeling comfort. I feel an intimate pleasure in his presence. Crazy or no crazy. I love it. If it feels this good and helps me get through the days. I will just be crazy.